noun, plural -ties
1. the state or fact of being diverse; difference; unlikeness
2. variety; mulitformity
3. a point of difference
By the way, your life is very different from mine, and I don’t mean by virtue of age. And yet I love reading you, how you think and what you process. And the wondrous commonalities among women – and mothers – are there. Those commonalities cross miles, lifestyles, belief systems, age and any number of other differences. If only we could build bridges to each other through open minds and shared experiences, rather than being divisive. Yes, I am a bit of a dreamer, I know…
I will return to Wolf’s comment in a second. First, I want to discuss diversity.
We are taught from our preschool years to embrace the individual. To accept those that are different from us. We learn about different cultures and the politically correct ways to refer to them. We remember to call Hispanics, Hispanic Americans and Blacks, African Americans. Among all these differences, could it be possible that we lost a sense of community?
All Things Common
Back to Wolf. She mentioned commonalities. Yes, we women struggle through the same things. We feel insecure in motherhood, in friendships, and in employment. We feel angry. We have awful days and good days.
This community is unique. It has brought together a smorgasbord of women. It has not only brought us together, but united us.
I think about Linda. A Jew. A fabulous mom who writes about the struggles of having teens.
I think about Wolf. A single mom, working to make ends meet.
I think about Charlotte. A mom of 6 kids and wife to a doctor.
I think about Kristen. A busy mom of 2 kids and full of wisdom.
I think about Aidan. An ivy league graduate. A mom. An author.
I think about Yvonne. A mom. A grandma. Someone who writes about her travels.
I think about Kimberly. A mother who, like me, just welcomed a new addition into her home.
I think about many others I have met in this vast on-line wilderness.
And, here we all are. We listen to each other. We don’t think about our different religions. We don’t dwell on our age differences (I am pretty sure I am the youngest of this group). And, we don’t allow our differences to separate us. We recognize our similarities. We help each other through hard times.
We are diverse and we are similar. Rather than celebrating our differences, we celebrate our similarities. We laugh together. We cry together. Most importantly, we lift each other up.
We are women. Banded together, in the most unique fashion, seeking to find support.
Outside the Blog-o-Sphere
If we could expand this beyond the on-line community, think about what we could accomplish.
We would not use race, religion, or culture as a means of separation. We would recognize that we all have doubts. We all have trials. Days of sadness. Days when things seem to fall apart. We all have triumphs. Days when we are on top of the world. Days when nothing goes wrong.
Why do we celebrate diversity? Why do we not, instead, focus on building a world-wide community?
Kristen touched on this in her post, Jon Stewart, Sarah Palin, Judith Warner, and the Civility Gap. Rather than attacking, why not compromise. Why can’t we see that we each make mistakes. We all have flaws. Can’t we realize that without bringing attention to it? Can’t we accept a person’s idiosyncrasies without displaying contempt?
I know. Idealistic, right?
We seem to do that just fine in this on-line community.