I have a wonderful marriage. But, there are moments when it isn’t so wonderful. Like when we are caught up in adversity and can’t remember why exactly we wanted to do this whole kid and school and living poor business.
During those not-so-wonderful moments, we discover what really keeps our marriage together. Commitment. (And love. Lots of love.) We honor those sacred covenants that we made in the temple on our wedding day. Well, it’s more than honor, we believe in those covenants. We believe that if we are completely faithful to each other, we can break the bonds of death and find Eternity.
Life is hard. Everyone can agree on that. In our lives right now, Ben is working two jobs, 70 hours a week, 7 days straight. He doesn’t have any breaks. And I don’t have any breaks. Last night, when picking Ben up from work, I was extremely frazzled. Ben asked about my state and I told him that I was tired from solo parenting for the past 3 days. Because that’s what happens when he works both jobs, as he is gone from 7 am until 11 pm.
Yet, we are making it work. Even when I am so tired and Ben is so tired and the kids are cranky and we have bills piling up and our car breaks down and, oh you get the idea, we have learned to lean on each other for support. As I mentioned, our interactions aren’t always pleasant. Thankfully, we believe in repentance and forgiveness. We’ve learned to let little things go and focus on the important things: How blessed we are to even have jobs, to have our beautiful children, and to have each other.
Sometimes I question the Big Plan. Is it really necessary for Ben to be working so much when we will be entering medical school next year? I mean, come on! I want a break!
I realize, though, that these trials are teaching us so much more than we think–and I won’t always learn everything while in the middle of them. It is my responsibility to stay faithful, and to keep my commitments.
We can and will make it through these difficult times.
Hey, with this guy on my side, I can do anything.