Gender roles in our house are non-existent.
At least in theory.
In my head, I feel it is my responsibility to handle the day-to-day tasks and household duties. These include big things like, making and keeping appointments, changing banks, finding the best health care for our family, and small things like, keeping up on dishes and laundry, vacuuming, and cleaning the bathrooms, etc.
Recently, after something happened in our family that I actually will not talk about on here (I know, the full disclosure queen, and I am not sharing everything), the dynamics in our family shifted.
For starters, I came home one evening to a clean house, clean clothes, a hot meal, and an empty sink next to a full dishwasher.
This has been the typical routine around here, I go to work, Ben does his thing, he comes home and cleans the house, picks the kids up, picks me up, and we all enter into a delightfully organized home.
I am adjusting to this new reality–a reality that includes sharing responsibility–and feeling pretty lucky with this arrangement.
Surprise, surprise, I also do not feel guilt with leaving things for Ben to complete. It’s refreshing. I think we are becoming a team. And it’s really nice.