Cathy suggested we have a cup of virtual coffee together, much like Corinne’s weekly series. I think this is a wonderful idea and will only tweak it a little–by making mine a cup of hot chocolate. Don’t worry, you can keep your cup of coffee if you’d like.
If we met for hot chocolate, we would exchange holiday stories. I would tell you mine were perfect: Relaxed and guilt-free. Ben and I decided on a new tradition that will take a couple years to get going, but we are very excited to see it come to pass.
I would ask about your family then tell you about mine: How Andrew took his first steps on Christmas Eve among wild applause and shouts of, “Hooray!”; that I finally conceded to potty training Emily because she is doing it all on her own. You would laugh as I describe how she marches right to her little potty when she needs to relieve herself, stands up and yells, “I go pee pee, Mommy!” when she’s finished and helps me empty the bowl it into the toilet. Afterward, she instantly demands a treat. Which I often agree to because she is just so big and I am just so proud. You would ask about Ben and I would share how marvelous it was to have him work only one job over Christmas break. We had so much fun together.
You would ask how I’m feeling. A little rough emotionally, I’d explain, especially since some of my friends are having their babies right now. It makes me hurt knowing that I won’t be holding mine in May, even as I take comfort in knowing she (I always knew it was a she) is being held by God in Heaven. Physically…well I’d quickly change the subject because that’s a sore (no pun intended) topic right now.
We would swap resolutions lists. I would tell you that I don’t expect perfection in my goals, just gradual changes as I continue to grow through my experiences. You would nod your head at my wisdom and then we’d both collapse in fits of giggles because, let’s be honest, “being wise” isn’t my greatest attribute.
As our time ended, always too quickly, we’d stand and give each other giant hugs. We’d promise to meet at the same place, same time next week with new insights to share and stories to laugh about.
What would you share?